"Are you going to 'get' another one" and other crazy comments.

I just got done reading another blog I follow where she had what I call an "ignorant encounter". Luke and I thought we could write down just some of the random things people have said to us about adoption or Ike's ethnicity.

There is this grandmother of a girl in Ike's current class that drives me up the wall. So much so that I loath seeing her and will sometimes get there early or late as too not run into her. I see her multiple times a week and every time she comments about Ike being different or Korea/Koreans. Keep in mind that these questions are all on different occasions and stand alone.


* "Where did you get him?" This just isn't her, but people all over. Oh, you know, he was on the top shelf at walmart. Not on sale or anything but we thought we would splurge.

* "isn't it great that 'they' are 'all' Christians over there now?" I wasn't aware of this...

* "did you use an agency"

* Today: "I just think all Asian babies are beautiful. Not like American babies. Not that I consider him Asian. I consider him to be 'white'"

Moving on to others:

* "how much did he cost?"

* "Are you getting a little "Chinese'?" My husband, "no, I'm getting a whole Korean".

* "why is there an Asian on your desk". My husband, "what?"

* "Did you adopt from overseas because it is cheaper?" No. "Oh, then it must be because the paperwork is as extensive since the standard of parenting isn't as high".

* "Does he squat like that because he is Asian?" Luke, "Look, Ike, it's a fat ass". (I know that is bad, but sometimes your fed up)

* "Has he shown a tendency towards math? You know, because he's Asian?"

* Maybe my favorite. "Does he speak Korean?" No he is a baby and has lived here for almost half of his life and all that he can remember. "Do you speak Korean".

* "Your wife must look really Asian, because he doesn't look white at all." Luke, "Thank you".

* Old guy at the mall. "Is his dad Japanese?" No. "He looks Chinese" ???? me: "he was born in Korea". Old guy: "so his dad is Chinese"

There are PLENTY more. The funny thing is that we live in the middle of a huge Asian district in a city of tons of Asians and some of these things have been said by... Asians. Most of the people aren't trying to be hurtful or rude. But my God I don't know if we just look friendly or what :).

The woman at Ike's school is the most annoying because for six times a week I am asked questions about Ike being Korean or adoption. Every time. Three days a week, pick up and drop off, six times a week. Once she said that Korea was a beautiful place... she really liked Beijing. I don't even correct her.

We are super psyched because Ike is starting a new school in two weeks and there is a boy named Santiago in there. We are hoping he will take off the pressure. :)